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Ray.....
My story is a complicated one.....I placed my daughter in a CLOSED adoption thru an agency; despite the agency doing extensive home studies and reinterating how "crucial" it was to keep everything so secretive, to the point of altering her b/c and issuing a new one filled with lies, my daughter was placed just 2 doors away from me with a member of my church. I always knew who and where she was BUT I never approached her so she and the a-parents never knew that I was her b-mom. I went back to Hope Cottage, the agency I used when she turned 18 to place a letter in her file should she ever search and again when she was about 24 and I needed to update the info I provided for her. At that time I visited with an intern social worker who asked how I knew her name address etc. I explained the circumstances and she became shocked, she was in fact in tears.... she would not confirm or deny what I knew but conviently left the room leaving the file open for me. I looked and saw the truth, one that I already knew. Later and off the record, she told me that the a-parents wanted a newborn black female and I happened to have the only one born within 11 months of them paying their fee.....(appox. $28,000) and that they were preparing to get it back (only agreed to wait one year) and look elsewhere. She explained that with that kind of money at stake, the agency was willing to do anything to satisify them and my being a neighbor was the least of their problems. That also explains the many lies on the b/c....
It was so hard watching her and not being able to claim her, but it was also rewarding because I knew where and how she was. One of the biggest issues we face today is that she now knows I was so close yet kept my distance. Ray, I was only 16....they had had a prior adoption recended and I was so afraid that if they knew they would take her and move away......I should have sought legal advice and sued.....but didn't want the baby to be moved away. So thats my story.....I have always known, my dad was her jr. high principal, my Mom her a-moms friend; but just *met* her 8 months ago.....Missy
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