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Originally Posted by Denise Michaels Mom
I've had adoptee's tell me they would hate not knowing their adoptive family, that they would miss them if they weren't raised by them, that they wouldn't have had such a good life if they were raised by their mothers but that's just not so. First of all they wouldn't even know that their a-parents existed, they wouldn't have had anything to compare their life to and if you ask any child who is being raised by a single parent..."hey, look at that family over there, they have a mother and father, they live in that nice house, they have more "things", don't you want to go live with them?" The child would say no, they wouldn't want to leave their mothers. Adoptee's are saying that their adoptions are "Gods Perfect Plan" because they were raised by their a-parents, they wound't know the difference if they weren't.
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Denise,
I am an adoptee and I was raised by two of the most wonderful parents. If I had the chance to change things, I wouldn't. I have searched and found my birth mother and my birth grandparents. Unfortunately she doesn't want contact with me right now and thats OK. However my grandparents do and I am very grateful for that.
When we first spoke, they told me the story of my adoption. It was my birth mother's choice to place me and she knew that she did not have the resources to take care of me. My grandparents told me that they could not do it either at that time and my birth mothers decision to place me for adoption was in my best interest. I am grateful to her everyday of my life because she gave me a chance at life.
I really do not appreciate some of the things that you said in your post, because you can not speak for all adoptees. I highly suggest that you read the following thread. I hope that you will be able to understand that all adoptees do not feel the way you say they do.
I am tired of being the "angry adoptee"