[carolynppk]

I have been in reunion for two years now, with some of my family members not wanting contact. I understand wanting answers, but at the same time you need to respect others feelings. I know it seems unfair, but the truth is, you get further when you give others the time and space to process things. I am sure your bmom is scared of losing her family, omitting something that huge would sure to have an impact. I would have social services contact her and let her know you are always open to contact. Rarely are both parties on the same page at the same time. I know it was like throwing cold water in my bmom's face when I found her. I had thought about contact, seriously for a year before starting my quest, she had no warning at all. Initially she did not want contact.

Reunion is a rollercoaster ride of emotions, even in the best reunion, I would make known to her that your door is always open and leave contact information at social services, and then I would concentrate on your relationship with your bfather. I am correct in that your bmom and bdad had a son and two daughters before you? You state you have a full brother and two full sisters and a half sister. Is the half sister with her current spouse? And if these others are your full siblings are from your bparents union, how much older are they than you? She may not have told them about you, but kids aren't dumb, they may remember her being pregnant with you.

Good luck and give things time. I find the harder you push, the harder the ride. Enjoy getting to know your bdad.

Carolyn