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we adopted out of birth order and it was hard, but doable. i have 2 12 yo, 2 9 yo, 2 6 yo, none of them twins. i have to treat them totally separate. the 6 yo cant be in the same class, wear the same colors or even eat the same things. the adaughter would be ok with it - she is slightly retarded - but the other daughter doesnt want to appear to be the same as her. its funny, but until i wrote this just now i havent figured out why. of course she doesnt want to be in the same catagory as her, lol! i always thought she was just angry about being displaced! if you can not put them in the same room, it would be better. that is the mistake i feel like i made. if i were you i would put the daughters you already have in one room and the *new* girls in the other. i dont know how you will work this out with your 16 yo though. in time the girls will become part of the family, but i wouldnt force it. i made that mistake. i wanted the *new* kids to fell welcome and loved and it only bred resentment in my other kids. things get better and better, but it has been a lond road. my dd has RAD, PTSD, and that didnt help either. you have no way of knowing if they girls have problems. good luck.