Thank you very much for your input! The sad thing or I guess the good thing is that I really like this lady. It is not her that makes the ugly comment, but it is her mother (birth great granma). I guess the thing that really bothers me is that she acts like she could care less about having a relationship to us as a family...she wants to pretend in her mind that this never happened. For instance, I have repeatedly asked her not to bring Ben a gift everytime she comes. I don't want him to associate her with getting something. She always does it anyway. Sometimes I feel l have no say. I guess I just want to help her deal with this on some level. Is this possible? Her son (bdad) has no interest in contact with us. He has even told her not to tell anyone about Ben. I guess I don't have anything to really complain about. Maybe it is my own insecurities I am dealing with!
I appreciate your input!
Moiraerin: You sound like you are a very straightforward person...I like that
Usually I am, I am just trying not to hurt anyone's feelings...or allow my son to be hurt or to be deprived of knowing who his birthfamily is.
Bailey: Wow! Sounds like you have had alot on your hands with that lady. After Ben had been with us about 4months (parental rights were relinquished at 3 weeks old), she says to me , I think the kids still have time to change their mind. Boy I had to correct that quick.
Stephanie