I know how you feel - for us in NY it is NINETY days, which seems like an eternity! One thing our lawyer told us is that we, as the adoptive parents, can go by the rules of whichever state are more in our favor for that period - assuming it is an out of state birthmother. I guess that was to ease our minds since NY is soooo long a period. But then again, it is for the best interest of the baby and the bmom should definitely be sure that adoption is the choice she wants to make...
I wish I knew some good advice for you as far as keeping your ears open for other situations, but we haven't even gotten as far as you have yet, so I'm certainly no expert. Hang in there though!
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Heather
Adoptee/hope to soon be an Adoptive Mom