wanting some help
I just got done reading a bunch of post on transracial adoption and I now feel really in the dark. My husband and I are both Caucasion and we adopted our second son (African american) 3 months ago. We also have a 3 year old son (caucasion) whom is also adopted. We love them both with ALL our hearts. We have very supportive families and friends and comunity that also love them very much. But is this enough? My questions are how do I make the most out of not only our 3 month old but also our 3 year old? I know the questions are going to come someday that why is he white and I am not or why am I white and he is not? I want them to be very happy about who they are and who they will become as adults. We have very open adoptions with both of them. But I know that that is not enought on its own. You know, I guess this is where I get confussed. Some say to treat them no different then each other but others tell us that you have to talk to them all the time about there background. We are very open to them about adoption but do I need to talk about black and white all the time? The way I feel is they are going to know that they are differant in skin tone (i hope to raise them to be proud of that skintoo) but what matters to me is they are no differant other then that and i dont want to make a big deal out of it. I know I sound like i am going in circles and that is how I fell too. Will someone like to share with me how they felt growning up in a white home with siblings of the same or different race and the things that help you or could have help you. Also can some of you that have adopted children of differant race share some of the things that you have learned? I am very open to all. I really want the best for both of my children. Thanks so much (I hope you all can understand this).
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