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Yours sounds very much like what is happening in my state. Mediation is something being done here to avoid court, if possible. I guess the expectation is, when it gets this far, it's pretty much taken for granted TPR is going to happen.

We "did" mediation about four months ago. We were asked to prepare an agreement we would abide by. Basically, we decided all we would be comfortable with was one supervised visit a month until adoption was finalized, then semi-open communication until S is 18. Our communication was basically to be non-indentifying information, with an update and a picture on holiday's and S's birthday.

We were advised that whatever we agreed to do was legally binding should the parents surrender their rights. So, be very careful was social worker's advice.

Bio mother declined mediation flatly. So, we are waiting for a TPR date now.