[amyfk]

Wow,

So sorry youre going through all of this. I"d be spinning my head too! I know the way I am.

Although i had issues until we got my baby, we had a referral in advance system, so we were more prepared.

I think although you have an IA doctor at your disposal, you have to go with your gut feelings. You have to feel comfortable with the child. This child, will afterall, be under your care for the next 18 years(and if ill and cannot take care of yourself perhaps until the day you die--you may have to put her in a special facility). Now some folks are comfortable with that and others aren't you have to be comfortable with what youre tak
ing o
n.

Can you call your agency stateside and tell them what happened in Russia? From what I understood, if you are not comfortable with a referral, you can ask to see other children while incountry

Good luck and take care of yourself during this stressful time.

Amy K, NJ