This is a ruff one for me to find the right words...and not get on a ranting... LOL *sigh*
Because this is a thread topic the one sense I started and said umm no.... and closed it instead of "posted"
Kids are growing up way to fast. Schools and so forth are forcing them to. My oldest daughter who is 15, is being told she has to make choices that will effect the rest of her life NOW. They are taken to "job faires", visit colledges... and OH it's sickening.
She has to choose her "classes" wisely in prep for colledge. When I was in school, colledge? yes.. ok colledge prep classes. But now, it's not that simple, depending on "what she wants to be" determines which colledge prep classes she takes....
And ya know.. . bite me... she is 15! let her be a kid geeze.
She isn't old enough to vote, she isn't old enough to drive, get a tatoo, etc etc.... why not?
because she isn't mature enough to make educated decisions... Then why in the world are they old enough to be FORCED into making life effective decisions for "who" and "What" they are going to be when they grow up now???
Then at the same time, "your to young" for this or that.... there is no standard of thinking for these kids when they are away from home. All situational when they are old enough to make "life decisions" for this or that, and it is frustrating to me.
So for some kids with the lack of "home parenting" being done... making Grow up choices, leaves some to believe this is just how it is... Well I'm grown up... NOT ALL! but alot. These kids now adays have such attitudes. No wonder. If they are told they have to be grown up decision makers, I am grown up, I can do grown up things. Drink, drugs, sex, etc etc....
Does that make any sense??? what I am saying they do to our kids?
Some kids can take it, Our home is a strong parented home. That's not to say my kids won't make mistakes, I just hope I am able to keep them safe from having to make certain choices in their lives, as well as I hope I have taught them well enough to make smart choices if I am not there. But what about those kids who do not have the constant parenting? Fool their parents? Or plain up don't have parental guidence worth a grain of salt?
As a parent it's the best I can do is teach them right from wrong and hope for the very best.
Ugh for now let me respond to the post, sorry I got off...
Honestly?? I think this is a good "Situational" decision. Obvisouly this young lady has been taught no boundaries, and it's only asking for misfortunes and problems by allowing it.
Situational Meaning.. My oldest when she was 12, had a well manored well raised boyfriend who was in her classes and also 12. She made mature and smart choices, they both did. For her? I wouldn't of had a problem allowing her to go to the mall or the movies with this young man.. To them, boyfriend/girlfriend at that time was someone you held hands with, and giggled when he kissed your cheek. Wrote notes to, B+J forever! I had spent a few as the chapron times with this child, and believed he would act no other way then respectable. You will shutter and flame me, But we lived on one floor. I left them play video games on her computer, which was in her bedroom. DOOR OPEN, LIGHTS ON! *she usually played with lights off* and I peeked in constantly.
Sadly I abosultely know the gross and discusting behaviours of "other" peoples children. Some of these kids have no clue the reality of what they are doing, they just think it's a cute little game. I could show you a log file of a girl who spent the night at our house, I check log files of my childrens computer every day if they are on line. When I sat her down and explained that these behaviours will not happen in MY home I don't care what you are or are not aloud to do at your house. She really had no concept of alot of things the "talk" was about. I printed and gave the log files to her mother as well. She told her mom, that she thought he was talking about getting a back rub. She was lying... 2 weeks later she was kicked out of the local youth center for being with the same boy and his best friend. All had there had their hands in places they should never of been. She was only 11.
So even if I trust my own child, I would also need to trust the family AND the child she is dating. I would need to have a few supervised by MYSELF visits before I would consider it as well. These boys above? I had spent one study group over seeing these two boys and have no doubt, I wouldn't allow her to date in anyway let alone go anywhere with either of them, nor would they be aloud within 100 feet of my home.
So, It's all very situational.
My currant 12 year old??? Um... not just no...but HECK NO! When she is 18, at the rate she is going!!
I was hestitant to let her go to the mall with her *female* friend, and friends parents. Knowing full well the rules were to check in with mom every 15-20 minutes at the food court where mom contently sat reading. I know the other girls parents well. I trust my daughters friend more then I do my own daughter. I know these two girls together for any amount of time, there is so much hot air and ditzy ideas, and hyper energy, they could run a Disney park if you hooked them up as a generator.
So as a blanket statement.... 12 yo on a date with a boy? ok not ok? I would more say for your situation of yours?? umm..
no! obviously good reasons.
