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Originally Posted by loveajax
Janny, I am sorry that your son is having some difficulties now...but I am really glad that you and his a parents seem to be building a healthy relationship that can only benefit all of you (especially your son) in the long run. Good luck to all of you!
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Hi, just some news that may benefit others? I typed up some comments of the Primal Wound and sent it to my son to see how he would react and to see if it would release any of the pent up emotions that he describes, he found it very interesting and said he related to a lot of it, not all of it applied, but a lot of it did. I have yet to send the 2nd batch of stuff I thought may help him, but something curious happened along the way.
He was on the phone to me and I highlighted the fact that I'd picked up from the Primal Wound (but didn't tell him) that he must be
feeling angry with me for giving him up for adoption and that it was ok for him to be angry with me. I even suggested to him that he was feeling "well where the .... were you when I needed you, and here I am with these strangers". It seems to have had a releasing effect on him, as 2 weeks later (and a lot of worry on my part, was it too much, etc etc) I received an email saying that he'd had flu for a few days, & sorry didn't contact etc, but that he was feeling GREAT before that, so I'm very hopeful, that by giving him permission to be angry with me, that it will let out something that needed to be lanced some time ago.
Anyway, that's what I've found is working for us and if it helps anyone else, fair dinkum, 'cos I feel I'm healing my son (and he certainly is healing me in a variety of ways, even if it is, hard work).
