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Originally Posted by Britt42
Has anyone else been adopted and then your adoptive parents had a child of their own and they show favoritism for that child? How do you deal with it? I could deal with it if it was in the past, but it still goes on to this day. I was told by my amom that she wants me to be the executor for her will, but she is leaving everything to her REAL son. I can do all the work and he can have everything. When I told her he needs to take care of it himself, she just couldn't understand it and said, "But he wants YOU to do it." I mean I guess I understand them wanting to leave everything to their natural son, but then to throw it in my face. Did anyone else grow up with this kind of dysfunction? Would this bother anyone else, or is it just me?
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This angers me beyond words, and I can't believe I'm the only one to think of this so far: Legal action.
Yes, children can be "written out of wills."
But legally both you as aChild and your brother as bChild are your mother's children, and if you can show a Judge (family court maybe) that you've been a "good kid" to your mother all these years, and that her leaving everything to your brother as her "real" child (but asking you to do all the work to ensure he gets it) is spiteful, vengeful, without basis or merit and unjustified, he could possibly sign an order that a court appointed mediator or advocate decide how to divide the estate.
If your mothers estate is sizeable, it could be very much worth your while to pay a lawyer even a few thousand dollars to research that situation, and the laws relating to it as they apply in your state.
It sounds like your mother pretty much doesn't give a care about you at this point if she's flat-out told you she's not leaving anything to you and that your brother is getting it all (but she still asks you to do the work as executor... that really burns me up), so it would seem to me that you have nothing to lose in going after this.
At least in the "making mom mad" department.
Good luck!