You definately have your hands full, but do not give up yet. Besides reading Nancy Thomas's books she has some great dvd's and cd's. It sounds like he has some real attachment problems.
In the meantime if he doesn't want to keep his room clean that is fine. But first off, you are not required to keep him provided with toys. Also, around our house TV is a privelige and privileges only come after chores are done. So, the kids can choose whether or not they want to clean their rooms, but they don't get to watch tV, go on the computer, etc, till rooms are clean.
Also, if they are having a hard time keeping room clean it tells me they have too much stuff in there so I help them out by storing it for them.
