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Originally Posted by zxczxcasdasd
Have you tried having a loving, but frank face-to-face on the subject with them?
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zxczxcasdasd,
I have tried to have many honest conversations with my afamily on the topic... they shut down the conversation almost immediately. They deny any concerns what so ever with my reunion relationship. They claim to "have no idea" what I am talking about. It is really strange.
Yet, I think that you are right... the problem is most likely a combination of their fears and mine. I want to want to share with them developments with my bfamily but I don't really want to because it feels so personal. But the afamaily doesn't want to admit anything is happening at all with the reunion... their denial makes it feel even more private. But at the same time that they are denying it is happening... they are pretending to be sickeningly open towards the bfamily. It is a strange balancing act... that drives me crazy.
I am always a "lets bring it out in the open and talk it all through" kind of person. I have gone this route with them about 4 times. The afamily can't do it... and at the same time, your suggestion that they are picking up on my hidden feelings on the topic is interesting. I appreicate your perserpective on the issue!