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Babaganoush,
First of all: dang, did you have to say babaganoosh? Now I'm hungry for some yummy Middle Eastern food! Mmmmmm...babaganoosh, warm pita, some lamb.....
On our sadder topic, though: I'm so sorry for all you went through. As a foster mom, I hope I treat foster kids and my adopted son the same. But I also know that sometimes there's just that little bit of distance that you keep from somebody you know might break your heart. And foster kids who leave always break my heart. It's so hard to attach to them and then have them go off and never know what became of them.
I'd love to hear your suggestions for how we foster parents might do a better job of getting kids ready for adult life. I just foster little kids right now (my rule is that my now-adopted son always has to be the oldest, you know how that goes), but I hope to foster older kids as he grows up. Getting them ready to be competent, stable, loving adults is so, so important.
P.S. If you're wondering if you're going to be a good dad, you will be. People who are bad parents lack the ability to reflect on their own parenting. If you can think about yourself critically, and really work at being a good dad, you'll be a fantastic one.
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