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First, if this has been a longterm loveless marriage, it will be hard for them to have a positive perspective on relationships. They are relating from their own experience and may be subconsciously discouraging you from serious relationships.
Second, some people just know how to see the negative in any situation. If you're looking for the negative you'll see it. If they see it, they feel "responsible" to warn you about it.
Third, it's a common misconception that diminishing the thing recently lost ("it wasn't that good anyway") will make someone feel better about having lost it.
It doesn't sound like your parents are malicious. It seems more like they are probably ever-so-slightly bitter about romance, well-meaning people that just lack insight and sensitivity. Therefore, their attempts to say things they think they should as your parents, actually make you feel worse. It's a common malady, unfortunately.
There is a certain person, that I think I've learned my lesson about taking to about certain things. But every now and then, I feel all generous and optimistic and do it again, and what do you know? The same thing happens every time! I can have a great loving relationship with this person, but I just need to keep certain things to myself. I never advocate lying. But you can learn the art of truthful one-word responses and smooth subject-changing to avoid that.
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