[pattiboo26]

I have a silimiar story. My husband and i adoptived his ex-wifes kids. He is not bdad. We did it for his daughter my step daughter so she didn't lose them to the foster care system. Bmom went to jail and bdad is in there for molesting the oldiest.

My step daughter is 18 and the adoptive girls are 9 and 11. It seemed like at first i could make such a difference and help everyone- be the best parent in the world- but my step daughter rebeled and was a bad role model for her sisters. So, i want to push her out becuase it wasn't helping our attempt to be a happy home.

i found myself thinking what was i trying to do. This was a big responsible i took on and why did i do this to my self. My husband and i have a daughter who is 4 now. the girls came to us at 5 and 7.

My husband was upset during the problems with the step daughter becuase it seemed like i was choosing the adopted girls over her.

I have tried hard to protect them from their b-mom famiily. They are nuts. So, as of the last 3 years they dont have contact and they only get b-cards from bmom.

that has been the hardiest thing for my step-daughter to deal with. when i told her they would not see their bmom till they are adults she was incredible more upset. That may have been when the rebeling got worse.

if i didnt explain it. my step-daughter has the same mother who is in prison.

i hate the fact that i feel like i am playing god with their lives and deciding what is best for them. I hate the fact that bmom family cant see that i am trying to do what is best for them and proctect them from the pain. bmom tells my step daughter that she is getting out after she does this appeal or any appeal to the judge. i get upset becuase she has no chance of getting on before 12/9 and she is trying to convince her she is getting out sooner. I am gald that she is not putting my adopted girls thru that..

I want all my girls happy. I think the best i can do is allow my adopted girls to grow up normal like kids that are with b-parents.

i dont want to judge u but telling that child if u want to live with your b-family go ahead is telling him i dont want u and he knows they dont want him or he would be there...
i am sure i have told my step-daugther more hurtfull things...