[akcskye]

You've gotta consider too, that not every birth mother feels like the some of the birth mothers that are posting to this thread.

As we've discussed, some birth mothers have planned the adoption path almost since hearing they've conceived...to them, 72 hours to make a decision may be barbaric to THEM because *SOME* birth mothers just want a little hospital time with their baby, and then hand them to the adoptive family and start the grieving/healing process right away rather than have this huge cloud looming over their head.

There is no right answer that will suffice in every situation.

But, coming from the miscarriage/no live birth path I've walked...all I hear is the rights of others...with no regards to my rights.

Not to be argumentative or side-tracking...but birth mothers have rights...but what rights do the adoptive parents REALLY have?

We have the right to help pay the costs, pay the attorneys, etc etc etc...but when it comes down to it...the only true right we have as adoptive parents is to put our money and our hearts into something that...in many instances...turns out to be the equivalent of taking your whole life savings into a casino and having the worst poker hand on the table, and be told "better luck next time".

People get upset for the ugly, stereotypical pictures painted of birth mothers...well, what about us? We're portrayed as "baby snatchers" willing to do whatever it takes to make sure someone goes through with a placement...whether she wants it or not.

It's just a very stinky situation for all the tangents...and when I hear adoption friendly...it gives me a glimmer of hope that maybe someone is HOPEFULLY doing right on ALL parts of the triad, but helping give a little bit more thought to the adoptive parents...who have almost equal share of the emotional stake.

Just my VERY LONG .02 haha