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I do think the term "adoption friendly" state DOES mean friendly to the AP's.
And frankly, I'm not gonna sugar coat this, I am OK with that. I feel for any bmom's pain, I really do. DH is adopted and he talks to his bmom and I know she probably is in pain. We do letters/pix/emails with DS' bmom and I know she's in pain.
But I am not gonna be dishonest here...after 10 years of infertility and countless m/c's, I am not sad that we adopted from a very adoption friendly state! I could NOT survive a 30 day revo period.
As it is, we had a contested adoption that lasted 18+ months, so you could say that we went thru an "18 mos revo period". IT SUCKED.
IF we ever adopt again, we will probably either opt for an infant whose already been TPR'd or for a state that is "adoption friendly".
Now, does this mean that I am anti bmom? NO. Does this mean I don't believe in counseling? NO. We hope the next time around to find a very ethical agy (NOT the one we used in the past).
Just my .02
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S. J. born April 05
FINALIZED lucky Friday 10-13-06 
"And all the roads we have to walk are winding
And all the lights that light the way are blinding
There are many things that I
Would like to say to you but I don't know how...
Cause maybe
You're gonna be the one that saves me
And after all
You're my wonder wall"
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