[Kimmisue]

We had a 30 day legal risk because of an unnamed bfather. On day 28, my lawyer called to tell us it was being contested..... long story..... anyway... I lived in fear for several weeks not knowing what would happen. (Case was thrown out and we finalized) Our 2nd adoption was another 30 day legal risk. We weren't worried with this one as the bfather was not known and an illegal immigrant. So, that 30 days was not much of an issue. But for most adoptions, I would think that would be a very hard wait for alot of people. I would think the longer the wait, the worse it would be if consent was revoked. I guess it depends on the situation and relationship you have with the bparents. But, I will say we had a close relationship with our sons bmom and never dreamed anything would happen, but a man came forward anyway.

Sorry, didn't mean to hijack the thread.....

I was told that my state (Indiana) is an adoption friendly state because a bmom's consent is irrevocable unless she was under duress. It is also considered to be adoption friendly because of our putative father registry/law. I'm wondering if it is called adoption friendly because it is in favor of completing adoptions. I will say that when I talk to people who are considering adoption, I do tell them that it is an adoption friendly state, at least it is for the adoptive parents.