Dhewco,
OK, did not mean this as an insult, glad you know your history :-). I posted it mostly for others who may read not to confuse things and I am sure there are some out there :-). And I am not really that young, I am almost 42 :-), but I feel great.
It may be that single adoptions are more accepted in the U.S., and I definitely agree that being brought up by a single parent is much better than being brought up by caretakers in an orphanage. In fact, I was raised by a single mother, with almost no involvement from my father (who himself was an adopted child brought up by a single adoptive mother, interestingly). I think that the prevalent societal norm though even in the U.S. is still that it is more desirable for child(ren) to have both parents provided it is a stable family situation. I think you are very perceptive in understanding that the DFCS worker was likely trying to sound encouraging to you. I am sure that some single parents are superior, but of course it is ridiculous to generalize that more or most are better than two-parent situations. Personally, I believe it is important for children to have a mother and a father. In my case, growing up without a father (and I remember being sad about not having one), I was lucky to at least have uncles who in some ways had the function of a father or a male influence in my life. In a situation where (as is the case with foreign adoptions), there is enough two-parent families interested in adopting the child, a preference is often and perhaps should be given to a two-parent family over a single woman or man. Of course, I know it feels unfair to those singles who feel the need to parent and think they would make great ones. I know in Poland the interest of the child is understood in this way and it is put above the interest and desire of the single person to have a child. However, other countries are more flexible on this issue and you may be successful there. In any case, I think this is an interesting thread!
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Originally Posted by Dhewco
Yeah, I knew that..but the Russians started out as the Kievan Rus for a reason. I know my history, young lady  Kiev was the center of the RUSsians before Moscow came along. They might not be one now, but Ukranians used to be Russians, and no, I don't mean Soviets either.
And oh, single adoption is becoming more accepted in the US, and I keep hoping that would be the case for the other nations as well. The local DFCS worker told me that some of the best parents he knew were single. (of course, I think he was buttering me up as I'm told there is a shortage of foster to adopt parents in my county.)
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