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Brandy in my opinion... I am an adoptive parent that has had a few failed adoptions. The last one was the worst..
For me an adoption friendly state is one that offers bmom counseling and to make sure that this is really what she wants to do and not to make a rash decision.. or to get even w/ someone for what ever reason..
For me it is a state that does not make the birthmom have to wait a specific amount of date for her signatures to be final.
The last failed adoption the bmom had 5 days to decide.. she had decided in advance.. but in the wait the waivering back and forth and the time that she can sign is looked at as an ultimatium for something else that she had on her mind.. for some birthmoms they know they want to place and have their reasons but then the days come and they can change their minds it can be very hard on them to have this daily decision for days.. that's why states like Ga or FL or others that have 10 and 30 days for the bmoms to decide is very hard.
so for me.. it is letting them get it overwith quickly and in a nice humane setting that they are again asked if this is what they really want and they come up w/ the final decision.
AJ
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