Hi, I am so sorry you are hurting, adoption is so bittersweet. I can not tell you what the aparents are feeling. We had with both of our bmoms, said when they needed to call, call. If they needed a visit they were welcome to come. We had said this for the first 6 months, that way they knew the door was open. With our first birthmom ,who was very young and needed extra support, we had her at our home every week for about 4 months. She needed the assurance that the baby was thriving. We now see her about once a year and she is very comfortable with us and the adoption. Maybe the family is needing time to adjust to being a family. I would suggest writing them a letter and expressing your feelings and reassure them that they are the parents. I find writing a letter makes it less threatening for them and easier for the writer to express feelings. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out!