HI
I just wanted to know a little about what the Amoms are thinking about the first few months. Like most bmoms it was hell the first few months. What made it even harder was the fact that I didn't know what the Aparents wanted. I got the feeling they were trying to distance themselves. I have and open adotpion and to me that open means I get to see my son when I feel I need to. I of course would be nice about it and try not to be intrusive. I just always feel like they are putting limitations on the adoption. So to all the A moms out there.. Why the insecurities??
what's going through your head?? I bet it is probably hard on your part too? But really the B moms are the ones that lost we are the ones that are mourning.
What I would have liked most is if the Amom would have called to comfort me. I realize that this is their child I knew he was meant for them. I really don't feel like I would ever be a threat to them at all. So why the conditons?? I know they think being open is best for the baby. I am confused. maybe we both just have a different perspective of what open means? I didn't have a lawyer and we met through a mutual friend, so I guess I thought it would all work out perfect.
My sister has 2 adopted kids and she is really close to them. It more like they are good friends. they come over when ever they want and actually one of them is now my best friend. I guess I thought it would be like that. I thought I would have two new best friends.
Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to complain. I know how lucky I am especially after reading other posts. I love my A parents and i have a great adoption.
This is just one thing that hurts me. I'm just a little confused.
So I would really apopreciate some feedback from anyone. What do you all think? what is open adoption to you?
thanks.