[JanetM]

At the time of my son's birth the Aparents, whom I like very much, said that they would love it if I would put together a scrapbook of pictures of the bfather and I through the years which I am happy to do. I have posted elsewhere to get ideas of what other stuff to include and another adoptive mother suggested including a family tree. Now a few questions about the family tree...

1.) Would you as adoptive parents be uncomfortable if you saw your adopted child showing up in the bparents famly tree? I truly like our son's Aparents and I don't want to do anything to make them feel uncomfortable.

2.) The adoption is a semi-open adoption where first names only are exchanged (this is the agency's policy though I suspect down deep that the Aparents and I would be comfortable with an open adoption). I know for a fact that they know what my last name is since it was on the bassinet in the hospital and they saw it numerous times and is even in some of the pictures they sent me along with it being on the door to my room which we spent time together in. That being said I am perfectly comfortable with them knowing my last name and don't expect them to share the same with me. Since they already know my last name I'd really like to include last names in the family tree especially since some of the middle names are family names. Do you think this would be a bad thing to do? An alternative could be I include one with last names and one without. Then they could make the choice as to which one our son sees.


-JanetM
Birthmom to Andrew 9/17/02