Wow,I'm so sorry for all that has happened to you,it's just,well,can't really out it down in words,but wow.
I'm an adoptee of 28yo,and had my first child,a daughter,Mandy,at 15yo,turned 16 three weeks later and then at 17yo I had my son Jaimy,so they're 12 and 11 now.
I was born in Canada and raised,then (my amom was belgian) when I was 13 yo my aparents divorced,my amom took me to Belgian and then the rest happened,lucky for me ,reading all theese mails here,Belgian really has good social security and social workers,they supported me and now almost 13 years later I have a good job and home for my kids and myself,but I too,feel like there's an empty spot,and that's because I don't know who my bparents were.
I 'm searching,and searching and wondering and wondering.She to was a teen mom,maybe the same thing happend to her ,just like to you,cause she kept me for two weeks then,poef,I was giving up,and I so want to know who they both were.
So trying to answer your question,wich I really can't cause it's your choice I can only say for a achild,I to want to know who they were,but as a mother,I to want the best for my kids and want to protect them,so if I was in the same situation,I'de rather protect them,but in the end,it's their choice to,maybe you should wait at least untill he's 18yo,then he will be an adult.
I hope I could give you some support,if you'de ever want to chat,drop me a line,I wish I could help,even if it was as an listening ear.
God bless,
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