[waiting4amiracle]

Hi all...I'm forging into a new forum today. Some of you saw my post in "General Support" about 3 Emom requests which were raised in our first conversation. I can't say this ever became a match but it was soooo close. In essence it came down to 3 things Emom wanted:

1. Us to use Emom's grandfather's name as either first or middle name. The name she wanted us to use we just couldn't get our heads around from the outset. We tried our best to be honest about it and would still consider a compromise here.
2. Bigger issue - she wanted to be Godmother to the baby. This is a moot point and a good piece of information for ALL to take away. In the Roman Catholic faith the Canon Law forbids parents to be Godparents. We inquired with a long time proest friend and with Canon Lawyers about whether a Bmom's status is seen differently under Canon Law in adoption. The answer was no. Canon Law draws no distinction between b-parents and a-parents. The operative word ia "parent."
3. Biggest issue. Being named among the next of kin. This issue shifted more than the tides on any given day. First it was ensuring she was listed as among the next of kin so she would be notified of something happened to DW and I. Then she wanted to interview and have significant input into our decision on guardians. Then it was having "veto power" over our choice of guardian. With the tides constantly shifting we agreed to ensure our relationship with her was continued status quo by any future guardian and memorializing it in our will, as well as informing her of whom we chose, the nature of our relationship with them and a bit of their history and background.

Well, as you might guess the potential match unraveled and our journey continues. I'm curious to hear from others who may have faced similar situations and how you resolved them, if you were able to do so. Feel free to PM me with the info...

Thanks for listening...