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Originally Posted by doula
I am going to be working with a mother who is placeing her baby in an open adoption. I really would like to know the best way to support her. I am a doula. So I will be there for her prenatally, during labor and postpartum. I especially want to know the best things to say during labor and postpartum. I truly hope to help make this a beautiful time for her if at all possible.
I also wanted to know if anyone breastfed while at the hospital. Or how all of you feel about breastfeeding both by the birthmom and then later by the adoptive mom. Thank you so much.
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Doula, you might want to start a new thread with your question.
Off hand, I can't think of any specific things to say to her. I would highly recommend that you validate her feelings. Listen to what she's saying. Recognise that she will need to grieve.
I would say that the breast feeding is a personal decision. I personally believe it's the best thing for the baby and a good way to bond. The mother really has to want to do so however. It was not an option I had with my birthson (they didn't even want me to see him "because it would make it harder for me.")