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"hi again.
the rad definetely will have some bearing on how he is reacting.our fson has always called us by our first names,and callls us mom and dad sometimes.maybe let him call you by your first names,mr.and mrs.is so formal.that wouldnt feel like family to me either.i am so glad you are going to start new therapy for him.best of luck.
nanab"
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He has called us by our first names for the whole time he has been here. But he was only recently diagnosed with RAD, and RAD therapy just began. With a RAD kid you have be "above" them. Calling us by our first names puts him on the same level as us. Like friends. He doesn't respect us at all. Yes, Mr and Mrs is too formal, and the therapist hopes he will decide that on his own. But since he has to show us respect and refuses to do that by calling us mom and dad, his other choice is Mr and Mrs, such a school teacher. He would never be allowed to call his teachers by their first name.
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"So, all contact with the mother is terminated? If not, is there any way to get the biomom to support your effort to adoption? If there's any real love for her son, she might tell him that she understands and knows he can be truly happy with you.
Just my two cents, from a newbie..."
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All contact with his birthmom is out. She is in prison. Also in her case it would be very damaging to allow her to have contact with him. She has been diagnosed with antisocial disorder, or some personality disorder. She is very manipulative, and under no circumstances could she be trusted to support us. She would only be out to destroy us, and she would probably be able to do it without anyone even noticing. Of course in my fs eyes she is a perfect parent and he doesn't understand any of this.