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HI,
We are in the process of adopting our 10 year old fson.he has a therapist he sees every week,and she works on getting him to share his feelings.he still has a hard time expressing anger regarding his bparents. although he know says he hates the addiction.we have looked at this as a adoption placement from the beginning,because we are foster-adopt.his cw was pretty sure bparents rights would be terminated.he bonded and attached to us easily.he wants to stay with us and wants us to adopt him.the things he has had to work on,is accepting he wont be going home to bios.they always hold onto some hope that they will go home until told the judge has decided the plan is for adoption.he call us mom and dad sometimes,we are working on that.he refers to us as his mom and dad to others.we have just trecently worked through his getting a new name.giving up his last name was not easy for him.but we felt in case it was best.we are keeping his first name,dh and i chose a new middle name for him,and also let hum chose a new middle name.so he will only keep his birth first name,all the rest is new,and he is gaining a new family.he seems okay with it now.it sounds like your fson really needs more work with his therapist.our fson has a great therapist,and she will see him more often if he needs it.also your fosterson is grieveing his losses,so try not to take this to personal.communicate with his therapist,you are partners.and sometime she may have to have you and hubby come into therapy also.we have had alot of support through this process,sws,gal,therapist.we work together as a team.If you love this child ,dont give up.he probably just needs time to work through all this.best of luck.
nanab
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