[vesw01]

Been there, doing that! Our 12 yr old told us she wanted to move the other day - she was mad that I was enforcing the rules. I honestly do not know how I feel about them having to call us mom and dad - our daughter started on her own. She still struggles with calling me mom when her biomom is around - that is ok I can understand.

Our family counselor asked her to not make a decision for a week, until we can all meet again. She agreed. Right now I know she is torn, but we are hanging in there. We just keep plugging along and making plans that she will be here....we will see.

Our therapist even said that often times that when the kids get closer to adoption they will turn and run. I have read many stories of this before. I believe in the websites that promote adoption, but remember it is advertising...they aren't going to out a child's remarks about it ruined their life.

Would his social worker consider legal guardianship instead of adoption?