[dianamom4]

I agree with Liz. I have 4 kids, ages 3,4,5 and 6, adopted a year and a half ago. Foster mom did not encourage sharing so they bickered over toys constantly. Once I hit on taking a toy when they fought over it, the problem stopped. Now all I usually have to do is give a warning. I rarely have to take toys anymore. One pointer on using this method: Do not try to figure out who started it, whose toy it is, who had it first, etc. Just give one "play nice and share warning" , then take the toy if they do not stop fighting. Explain that it was taken because they were arguing over it and end the discussion. Keep it for a set period of time (I keep the toy for the rest of the day). It also helps if you have set rules regarding toys. In my house anyone can play with anyone else's toy if no one is playing with it. If a child breaks another child's toy on purpose, or by being excessively rough with it, I will take a similar toy from that child and give it to the wronged child. Harsh, I know, but they now treat each other's things with respect. I also do not allow the kids to take each other's toys out of the house. Hope this helps. Good Luck!
-Diana