[vickisc]

Thanks....I was raised Jewish but we were taught it is how you treat people here on Earth that counts! My husband was raised Christian though. I have not let my daughter see or know what happened. She has asked how come her friend is not coming over for me to watch anymore but his brother still does. I've told her he goes to his Grandpa's now. She is satisfied with that answer. Unfortunately or maybe not when someone from our family including the mother's uncle, who just happens to be my son in law sees this man, someone is going to say something to him...and rightly so. When he gets into a bind and the grandpa can't babysit someday we'll see what happens. My mother has told me not to take the chance and watch him anymore because our childs happiness is more important. She is way to young to fight a battle of that nature. By the way we are in the process of waiting for a DNA kit to arrive. One of the possible bfathers has agreed to the test. Our attorney advised us to go ahead with it. He signed relinquishment papers so it won't change anything. I met with him and he said he would like to know. This man went to school with my oldest daughter and when the bmom told us his name she couldn't believe it. Five years ago he was heavy into drugs so he said if the bmom was hanging round with him she would have been doing the same thing; although she said she wasn't doing any drugs. He seems to vaguely remember her even though we know he saw her over a couple of months. I can't imagine having sex with someone and not remembering but then again that's a whole different lifestyle. My daughter resembles his sister and another daugher he had 6 months after she was born. Busy guy! I have tried to contact the bmom to have her participate in the DNA but her mom has not heard from her in two years and we haven't either. This was suppose to be a semi open adoption but she has closed it. The reasons for the DNA is for her knowledge later on and for medical history. She has a heart condition and will have surgery again for the third time for a different health problem.
Thanks again...Vicki