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Originally Posted by Abbylu
I have many thoughts about why people don't adopt in the US. Many which aren't nice. When we decided to adopt, I called 3 different domestic agencies. I was told that I would never be chosen by a birth-family. Why you ask? Because I already had children of my own.
The children in other countries less developed than our own, in my opinion, are in greater need of adoption than those in the states.
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Birth families have many potential apdotive parents to chose from. I can thing of a couple of reasons they might prefer an infertile couple. Most likely they are worried that a couple with bio children might favor them over the adopted child. Alternatively they may feel it is "fairer" to give their child to a couple who has none. According to a survey I read about the general attitude in this country is that having bio children is better than adopting and adopting is better than living child free. That would suggest that infertile couples are expected to adopt and fertile couples are expected not to.
As for those who ask why not adopt one of the many children here in the U.S., the answer should be what children? The legally adoptable children in foster care are not infants, they are often much older children. Adopting an older sibling group is very different from adopting an infant or new born. Not everyone feels up to it.
There are some AA newborns who do not get adopted in the U.S., they are adopted by foreign nationals instead. Ironic perhaps but the newborns and infants do all seem to find homes.