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I think what most people don't realize about the Foster/Adopt Community is the fact that very few children are ever returned home. I think it is like maybe 5% of children in foster care are returned to Bio's. Obviously we have No problem at all returning a child to his/her bios IF they do what is necessary to correct the problem.
Here is an instance for you, you see what you think should happen.
Baby M was taken to the hospital and it was found he had 2 broken legs and many healing fractures at 4 months of age. Baby M was placed in foster care. Bio did not visit baby M for the first 4 months. All of a sudden when she finds out in court that they are going to TPR as she has not worked a plan nor seen her child she decides to work her plan. At the age of 11 months baby M is returned to Bio. At the age of 17 months baby M comes back into care for neglect. Bio barely sees baby M and has not worked a plan.
So do you think this child who has now been removed twice should be returned?
This child has had it EASY compared to Many Many other babies or children in foster care. However the neglect was still neglect and has caused many problems even though he had only been back in her care for 6 months.
In other cases either things were VERY VERY bad for the children before removal, or parents refuse to do what they have to to get their kids back. They just don't think they should have to take parenting classes because most of them do not think they have done anything wrong.
Now in the case of Newborns who come into care, the bio has already NOT done what she should have for previous children who were in CPS custody, or they come into care because they tested positive for drugs, or with an older sibling. How many chances should a bio get to raise a child correctly and how many children should have to suffer because we should always reunify?
Why should anyone sit on a waiting list for years and years and pay 20,000 to 50,000 to adopt a newborn when they can adopt one through the foster care system relatively quicky and for 1% of the cost? If no one adopted out of the foster care system then these children would just sit in the system and never have a family.
Just something to think about....
High5tou
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