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I adopted a child at 17 months and we were told that he was a normal 17 month old and was developmentally on target. We were told they suspected abuse and neglect from his foster home though. Needless to say He was delayed by 9 months in most areas and had a number of medical and emotional problems. It was very hard to deal with at first. You have to keep in mind though that you will never get the full information from an agency no matter how wonderful they are. Until you are with that child 24/7 you don't know everything about them. The most important point is no matter what problems these children have they still deserve a home.
I have adopted three times and am looking to adopt again. I have accepted that I won't get all of the info. My son has been with me for 1 1/2 years now and we have worked and continue to work very hard with him. He is developmentally on target now and we are working with his emotional problems. You won't believe the bond we have together after going through the past year and a half. I have gotten so much joy in helping him thrive. It was hard work, but I wouldn't change a moment of it. He is my sweetest and most loving child. The thing that scares me the most is if I had know everything about him I wouldn't have accepted. It scares me what I would have missed out on.
I know I probably didn't give you the answer you were hoping to get, but just ask yourself if you want to love this child. If you do then you can get through anything that will come. All children deserve a home, even the ones that have problems.
Let me know if I can help you with anything. I've been there and I would be more than happy to assist with anything!
Good Luck!
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