[QueenofElves]

I want to commend you ladies and gents who are foster parents, I found the honesty of your forums on foster-adoption candid and refreshing. But I must question how you who make the heartwrenching decision to parent a child who may or may not be returned to their first family can so easily detach from the concurrent emotions of a mother faced with permanent seperation from a biological child. While I am certain there are circumstances where a forever split is vital, and perhaps I am an idealist, but my hope and prayer would be reuniting a mother and child when the mother has removed herself from her temporary bad decisions or circumstances. A more honest approach to obtaining an infant or child would seem to be adoption, however long it takes, because that is the intended goal. I feel people are on shaky ground when their intentions are to benefit from the failure of the system...by which I mean when the system fails to reunite the family...because then your motives cant be purely in the best interest of the first family, because they are clouded by the desire to be a mommy. I of course have yet to foster children, but would love the opportunity to do so.