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Seems to me then they are better off in the foster system till they are old enough to be on their own. At least foster care is not perm, and all hope of their parents coming back for them isn't lost. As adoption is final and that hope is gone for them for good.
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No, it is not best for them to age out of the foster care system. It is still in their best interest to have a family who loves them and cares for their best. They need a family who will fight for them.
The best for any older child is to live with their biological parents, if they are able. Second best is family members, if they are able. So, I realize that I am not the best for my daughter. I am the best adoptive mom for her, but first choice would be her biological mom if she had gotten her act together. For me to deny that would be wrong.
However, the fact is, her biological mother did not get her act together and for my daughter to hold out hope of that is wrong. She needs to give up that hope and realize that her bio mom isn't coming back. To continue to let her hold on to that dream would be wrong. She needs to accept her new family to continue healing.