We were contacted in November by CPS in the region we adopt through the first time about a sibling group. They said they wanted us to consider adopting these two boys. TPR had already occurred. We drove up and meet the boys case work and even got to see pictures of the them. She told us at that meeting they were only looking at one other family and they would have the selection soon. We are in a new Region now and so our home study needed to be updated. Our new Region rushed and got everything to them within a few weeks. Next they told us they were waiting on the home study for the other family. Honestly it has been on reason after another to delay the selection staffing for 2 and 1/2 months now. Right before Christmas CW told me the boys would be on Wednesdays Child, but not to worry it is still just between us and one other family and that the staffing would be right after the new year. I e-mailed yesterday to see if she know exactly when the selection would be. She replied that she had no idea because another agency still had not gotten back to her with some home studies and that even if she wanted them to they could not just pick us with out looking at other families. WHAT???? All along it has been about us and one other family, now you can't find any families?? She told me they found out they could not place with the "Other family" and that a few people have called after seeing Wednesdays Child, but none of them have home study.
I just don't know how much more I can take! What do they do if none of the agency come up with a family. The crazy thing is we are a licensed foster home and if they had been our foster kids we would not have had to wait for a selection staffing. Also they called us! If they knew we were a good match back when they called us then why can't they just place them with us?? Plus if we are the only family that wants them what is the big deal?
What gets me is we are not taking any foster placements because we want to keep the space open for the boys. We could be sharing our love with other kids right now, but they are holding everything up.
DO we set a deadline for our self...either we have an answer by X or we take our home study out and tell our region we will are open for foster placements? Or do we sit and wait? They already told us the kids have been moved several times and they have very difficult transition. I feel like the long they keep these kids in their foster home the harder it is going to be on them and on the family they pick to adopt them. Also it is hard not to get upset when I think that every day that goes by is a day I am missing of their life! I think it is sad that these boys may miss out on having a family that wanted them so much it hurts, because someone is either not doing their job or due to some stupid rules that say they have to look at 3 different families even when the perfect one is right in front of them! This all just makes me wonder what they are not telling us!!
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Wife to best friend and high school sweet heart
J/14 yrs
bio Mom to Son/D~12yrs
Adoptive Mom to Daughter/C~6yrs (adopted 11/2003)
Waiting and hoping for more