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Thanks for all of your helpful replies. I will try to answer your questions. My husband is a pastor, so we do have a very busy life. Our church has a Christian school, and right now I am also teaching half-day kindergarten. We really have a wonderful family and my husband & I have a great relationship. He was willing to to the vasectomy reversal and felt that if it was God's will for us to have more children, that it would work. He is not opposed to having more children, but does not have a strong desire to have them either. We have not even discussed the subject of adoption for almost a year, because the last time we did, it ended in a fight and I promised God I would remain silent on this topic and just pray that God would change my husband's heart if it was His will for us to adopt. It is very hard for me to do this, because I know my husband is totally unaware that this is an issue I think about and pray about daily - and he probably very rarely even realizes that I am sad about it. I would like to foster/adopt because I know there are children out there who need homes. My husband does not like the idea of having social workers dropping by all the time, of accepting government checks, etc. He was less opposed to private adoption, but we really can't afford it and I honestly do not see a birthmother choosing a family who already has three children and can't promise her baby the moon. I have read many parent profiles looking to adopt, and while it seems sad to say this, it is really like they are trying to "sell" themselves describing their beautiful homes and promised trips to Disney, etc. Anyway, I have seen from this board and also from other families that many Christians do foster care & adoption through the foster system, so I know it can work. And it seems Biblical to me - to reach out to "orphans" who TRULY are in need. Well this is long but I hope I answered your questions. Kathy
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