[kakuehl]

Another bmom here... 34 years ago of course I didn't get to meet D's aparents. I was however very calm in the presence of sw, etc. I don't know that I showed much emotion when I signed the papers. (I know I caused turmoil in the ranks when I refused to sign the final papers until I saw him.) I was very focused on the task at hand. The tears, etc. came later. As the others have said, I think there's a numbness, a protective shell, that enabled me to do what I needed to do. It didn't mean I didn't care about what was happening for I did deeply.