[Kimmisue]

Our son's bmom was the exact same way. (DS was born 1/31 btw). She did talk from the day we met all the way through that this was our (mine and dh's) baby, not hers. Every decision that was made, like name, circumcision, etc, she always looked at me for the answer because she stressed that this wasn't "her" baby. I was such a newbie at the time that I thought this was how all bmoms were and that it was a positive thing. She's never expressed to me any grief about the adoption, although I'm sure she has had some. She's always told me that she knows that she did the right thing for Brady and that she doesn't regret it. The only thing she ever said was at the hospital after he was born and before she signed. She told us that she wished she could keep him, but she knew in her heart that she couldn't care for him and that he'd end up "in the system". This way she got to choose.

So, I think especially if this is her 2nd placement, that she may have distanced herseld. I would be prepared for some grief that she isn't expecting. She may think she knows how she'll feel because of having been there before, so her feelings may take her by surprise.

Good luck! I know I repeatedly asked "M" if she was okay and stressed for her to call the agency if she needed someone besides us to talk to about it. She did tell me that she was able to get free counseling through her Medicaid, but I don't know if she ever did.

Keep us posted!!! That due date is coming very fast!!!
Kim