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It absolutely breaks my heart to read that both mglover and sari are thinking of discarding the dream of adopting an older child. Yes, there are success stories out there! I am living proof. I am not about to say that our exisitance is idealic, we have lots of challenges. But the rewards are SO great! Yes, my bio son has been made a target occassionally to temper outbursts, but he has never been injured any worse than either of my brothers or even I was injured by fighting sibs. Our son's life is so much fuller and richer for having adopted. Anyone that knows him and describes him used "compassionate" as one of the first words to come to mind. I'd say that is a pretty big deal, to have a compassionate 10 year old boy. My adopted kids were 5 and 9 when they were placed with us (two completely separate adoptions, not birth sibs). Although they have some attachment problems, neither of them are full blown RAD. Both these kids are very much bonded to me, my husband, our bio son and each other. I am not the only success story. Really. PM me if you like and i can tell you our whole story. Our visit us in the chat room. Often you will find us in the general room, or the foster/adopt room. You will find a lot of proud moms there.
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