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You are most welcome Peace.... My aparents were both quite elderly when I did my search and reunion... I told my dad the day that I spoke to my bmom for the first time.. but waited to tell my mom until after I had met my bmom.. (phone call happened in June... we didn't meet until the end of September 2001) My father had always been supportive of me and I was the closest to him.. the reunion was difficult for my mother.. I didn't realize it at the time but she had Alzheimers and her filter for appropriate behavior was off... I think if I'd known that I probably wouldn't have told her... I lost both of them in 2004... will be three years on Jan 8th that my father passed away and 3 years March 8th that my mother died. I don't think that I could have gotten through it all if I hadn't had the support and love of my bfamily. The chat room is an option that is linked with this site... If you go to the top of the page of this forum you'll see a bunch of different options in the goldish box at the top.. There is a chat option... I found the other adoptees whether reunited or not gave me the feeling that I'm really NOT alone in any of this... that there are some very common feelings and thoughts that many adoptees share. I also devoured every book that I could that deals with adoption. The one that I read first and the one that helped me the most was by Betty Jean Lifton.. The Journey of the Adopted Self.... sal
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