[Mihija]

A few days ago I wrote my b-daughter a letter letting her know that I didn't want to make a tough time of life(ie being 18), even more difficult for her. I told her that I would be here, when or if she ever decided she needed anything from me but that I would not write to her anymore unless she indicated otherwise. From what I've read in this Forum, late twenties or thirties seems to be more the age of maturity and readiness for adoptees to be interested in forming some sort of relationship with their birthparents. It is enough for me to know that she is happy and healthy and doing all the things 18 year old kids do but I do hope and pray that some day she might desire a friendship with my family and I.
Krissy88, I understand very well, that fear of rejection. Birthparents feel it too. I loved her enough to let her go the first time and I do now as well but the pain of that is almost more than I can bare for the second time in my life. I can only hope that some day, she will understand that what I did and do now, is out of unconditional love and not rejection. I'm sure it was the same for your birthmom.