[dspakowsky]

My step-kids are living with us. Each of them, along with my husband and I, got seperate cards with checks. None for for daughter, Carolina. On Christmas my husband called his mom and said "so the check you gave us, that's for Carolina?" and she said "no, it's to go out to dinner.". He said "so then where's Carolina's card?" She started laughing and explaining that she totally forgot about her. It was so uncomfortable, and she asked to talk to me. She explained how she forgot, etc. I said "when you send a check I'll make sure to buy her something nice." All she said was "Christmas was very expensive this year". I said "a card would be lovely". She didn't reply.

My MIL was just here at Thanksgiving, at which time she brought all the kids, including Carolina, a present. She's seen our daughter several times.

She also forgot her birthday in August, but remembered to send my step-kids presents.

I'm so mad! This is going to stop now while my daughter(s) are young! I told my husband that if something doesn't show up in the mail, we're going to send back all the money she sent for Christmas (and I'm not kidding). Thankfully, my husband totally sees how rude she is about this.

Any advice? I like to have a forgiving heart, but who knows what that part of the family thinks. Carolina is my first daughter, and this was our first Christmas.