Hi all:
Being new to this thread... I hope I am not out of line replying to this. I am both a birth-mother and a adoptee. I admire the courage it takes to find your children and to make contact. I have found (most) of my siblings but have yet muster the courage to contact my birth-son. I have found it to be quite a adjustment to getting to know my siblings...not like on T.V....lol. There are times I wish that I hadn't and times I am glad I do have contact with them. Perhaps your daughter is feeling like she doesn't want her life disrupted or maybe she is afraid you will leave her again. The only way to find out is ask her if she will write a letter and explain or maybe start with contact through e-mail. I wanted to wait a few days after finding out about my sibilings just to let the whole idea sink in (didn't know they existed until then) but my two brothers were too anxious and called me the next day. I was glad to hear from them, but wanted some time. My birth-son is 18 and I know where he is but can't seem to make the contact...I think I am afraid of disappointing him and I am not sure that he will want to get to know me...afraid of getting hurt or rejected from him. I know I have and still struggle with these same emotions from my birth siblings. The re-connection process is difficult . I hope that I may have shed some light on this. I would love to make contact with anyone else in the same situation as I ...please feel free to contact me at my e-mail...
coleman1900@shaw.ca
Take care