Most of you know my situation, and I kinda feel trapped in the middle, so to speak. I don't consider myself in a closed situation because I always knew where the family was, and who they were, and the offer was on the table for contact. We have contact for a period of time but for years I did not keep in touch, and have had no contact with my birthdaughter. I now get pictures and updates from a -mom, but not on a regular basis and nothing between DD and I. So I would say it's not exactly open either.
I find things in common with all of the birthmothers I have met, we all have the same feelings of love and loss for our children. Just for different reasons and under different circumstances. I have also through this forum found similarities between my feelings and those of adoptive moms and adoptees. I have even found similar emotions in common with mothers who divorce, and sadly those who have lost their children to death.
In the end we are all humans, touched by our children and our families
