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Originally Posted by taramayrn
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I am a bmom in an open adoption and heard the "move on and leave them alone" from my son's adopted sister's birthfamily the one and only time I met them (my son was a month old at the time).
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I heard this too. Right after the first (and only) time I spoke with my b-daughter on the phone. I was having a hard time dealing with the shock of it, and I leaned on some of my roomates at the time. One of them was a b-dad who was in a closed adoption. This statement pretty much closed my adoption, as he made me feel that my feelings were a sign that I was not ready to handle things, and I needed to move on and let them be. (They were probably just normal feelings to have) And since he "understood" my situation, I thought maybe he knew better than I did.
He was wrong, he was just in a different situation. But I didn't know that at the time.