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Originally Posted by adoptmom_02
What are the signs you have experienced with your failed adoption?
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I wish it were simple. Unfortunately, adoptmom_02, there are sometimes many signs and sometimes none. It sounds like you may be struggling to avoid going through this and I wish I could help you.
I will tell you what would have saved me, and what I recommend:
1) Hire the best adoption attorney in your state.
2) Make certain you have signed, valid, adoption consents from both birthparents prior to leaving the hospital with your child.
*I had custody&control papers and my lawyer told me that was normal. He lied. Do not believe everything a lawyer tells you.
3) Understand that the adoption laws and codes may say anything - but they mean nothing. The laws here are very clear and very fair. They have also not been followed and judges ultimately can do anything they want.
4) Very few, if any, adoptions are fail-proof. You must be very strong and understand that in order to adopt a child you will likely have to take this risk. Adoption is not easy; contested and disrupted adoptions are even harder. But they do happen and you must accept that it is a possibility.
I wish you the very best. Please keep us posted.
Christie